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Three Appreciations a Day
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Created bySean Fargo
Part 2 of Sean's partner-appreciation series — recorded in his own voice.
In Sean Fargo’s own voice6 min
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Welcome back. We're now on day two of appreciation. I'm Sean Fargo. Did you know that when we practice appreciation of loved ones, an actual physical transformation occurs? Your brain literally rewires itself to perceive even more to be thankful for.
You find yourself focusing on their strengths. Your face naturally begins smiling more. Your spine tends to straighten. Muscles in your face and neck relax, and breathing tends to deepen too. Your creative juices begin to flow.
You get creative ideas on how to turn your relationships around and move in a direction of greater love and acceptance. It's quite a profound transformation, both in the body and the mind. But appreciation takes practice, and just a little bit each day brings dramatic improvement to ourselves and to our relationships.
So let's start a quick appreciation practice by just finding a posture that feels both relaxed and alert at the same time. You can stand, sit, or lie down. Start to sense into the weight of gravity on your body, just connecting with the earth, or your chair, or your bed, or whatever you're standing or sitting down on or lying down on.
Just feeling gravity. Getting a sense of groundedness. Relaxing the belly, dropping the shoulders. Loosening the muscles of the face and jaw. It can be helpful to either close your eyes or look downward just to limit visual distractions.
If you're driving, please keep your eyes open. But we're gonna do a mindful reflection of a few things that you appreciate about your partner or loved one. Start by recalling their greatest strengths. Think about their greatest skills.
And remember their smile when you saw them most happy. What are a few of their values that you appreciate? Perhaps they have a unique personality that you can appreciate. The little things that make them, them. So this is a very simple exercise, thinking about their strengths, their skills, thinking about how beautiful their smile is, reflecting on their values or their personality.
So each day it can be very helpful to think of at least three things that you appreciate about them. Our spirits are lifted when we actively appreciate even the smallest things about someone important to us, and this habit tends to reinforce our natural appreciation for them, especially when the going gets tough. So thanks again for joining me today.
I look forward to being with you again tomorrow for our next session on day three of appreciation.
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